I don't wear my engagement ring all the time. I know so many people who do, but somehow I'm always afraid something will happen to it when I'm cleaning, doing dishes and rough housing with the kids or the dogs. I take it off as soon as I get home and don't put it back on until I'm ready to leave the next morning. The other day, as I ran back into the bathroom to grab it out of my little jewelry dish I said, "I choose to be engaged today." Man was brushing his teeth at the time and gave me a look as if I'd hurt his feelings. I didn't understand why it upset him but Man explained that he took that as me having the option to not be engaged. To me, it's the process of making a conscious decision each day to put my all into our relationship and now that I've explained that, he actually likes that I say my little daily mantra. I truly believe you have to remind yourself daily why you love your significant other. Some days it's easy; other days you really struggle to remember. I read
an article today about "happily-ever-after" versus "reality-ever-after" that said it so much better than I could ever hope to:
"Being married isn’t one decision. Being married is deciding to stay married every single day. It’s hard. It’s boring. It’s not terribly cinematic."
It's hard to admit that it's not all roses and puppy dogs, especially when we're not even married yet. No one likes to expose their flaws. But it's important to talk about those things and to remember, we're not alone on those down days. Everyone goes through it, and it's the healthy, successful relationships that come out the other side. I hope I can remember this and continue my mantra now and forever. I am so lucky to have found the Man of my dreams, and today and forever, I choose to be with him.
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