Wednesday, July 31, 2013
Calling all moms
In many ways, our oldest is more mature than her age, but in so many others she's just a baby. I think going through the divorce put her in a rough spot and she has sometimes been put in the position of being the other adult in one house or the other. I have seen Man put responsibilities on her that I don't think she should have (little things like taking her sisters to the restroom when we go out to eat or being the one in charge while he works from home) and you can tell just from spending time with her that her mother has done the same, though even more so. She is quite the mother hen to her sisters and doesn't call them by their names or "my sisters", but always calls them "the little girls" and gets upset if you remind her that she is little, too.
It's tough, because she's 10, so she's right at that age where she thinks she's big and she's well on her way, but she's still a child. This is evidenced by the fact that she still needs tucked in every night, still wants me to brush her hair and still needs Man to make her plate and cut her meat at dinner.
So here's the deal: I'm battling our 10 year old on the makeup issue right now. She wants to wear makeup for the wedding and I told her we could do a little. Then her mom bought her clear mascara and she suddenly thinks that's an every day thing. In fact, our middle child was going through the bag they took to the sitter's today (my awesome cousin has the girls today and was going to take them to the pool until the weather turned sour) and found a bag of makeup our oldest had packed, even though I've told her countless times she is not to take it places. So now that the little bit of makeup I was going to allow for the wedding has become the norm, since her mom gave it to her without clearing it with Man or me. This wouldn't be such an issue, except she thinks she has to do more than what she does every day for the wedding, so now she has decided she needs black mascara for the wedding. Bear in mind, not only is she 10, but she's got red hair and a porcelain complexion. Black mascara is going to make her look like a raccoon!
So today when we were duking it out in the car on the way to our dress fitting before I had to be at work, I got to thinking about what I did when I was 10. And unfortunately, I'm pretty sure I had the clear mascara back then. The difference was, BBS is 3 years older than me, so I pretty much got things when she did, so I was ahead of the curve, while our oldest is (obviously) the oldest and I am so NOT ready for the other 2 to be wearing ANY makeup! So here's where I need help: do Man and I make her put the clear mascara away somewhere when she's here so it will be a special thing for the wedding or allow the clear mascara as a daily thing and then allow more for the wedding? And if we go that route, just how far do I let her push it for the wedding? I KNOW I'm not going to let her do black mascara, but does anyone have any other suggestions? Help!
Thursday, July 25, 2013
Some people
Me: "Yes, it's $12.99 and we have them in stock."
C: "Do you think I need a new one or could I just wrap it in electrical tape?"
Me: "You might be able to get away with that over night but it doesn't sound very safe as a long term solution (then in my head) but hey, if it's worth risking electrocuting your family to save $13.83 with tax, go for it!"
Have I ever mentioned that I work at a pool supply store?
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
You really do learn something new every day
My washer crapped out on me. My high efficiency, top of the line, didn't-get-any-better-than-that-when-we-bought-it-five-years-ago washer. I don't know about you, but to me, five years just doesn't seem like that long for a washing machine. Especially when for over three of those five years it was just my laundry and I'm not a dirty person. I mean, it's not like I play in the mud for a living. Another almost year of those five years it was just me and a toddler. Again, not a ton of dirt. Admittedly, I do have more dog hair going through my machine than most people, but I'm pretty anal about cleaning it out regularly and running vinegar through the machine pretty frequently (about once a week) to flush everything out. So, I called a repairman. I was thrilled that we didn't need to replace but a little surprised at the problem...I've been using too much detergent! I use HE detergent, in the amount recommended on the package (although, admittedly, on the rare occasion that I do have something really dirty in there [think rags used to clean up doggy messes], I have been known to add a little extra detergent). The repair man was super helpful (if you're in the greater Cincinnati area, try Morris Appliance Repair. They're prompt, friendly and super helpful. And no, they didn't pay me for this endorsement, they were just that good!) and gave me a little lesson on doing my laundry. Apparently in an HE machine, you should only use 1/4 to 1/2 the amount of detergent recommended, even though you're using HE detergent. And you should never use traditional detergent. Really. If you have some left over, give it to a friend. It will save you money in the long run! So that doesn't sound like much detergent, and you may be wondering how your clothes will get clean with that little soap, but think about it - an HE machine uses WAY less water, so it won't be able to rinse out as much detergent. So really, how can your clothes get clean if you use too much soap? High efficiency washers don't clean your clothes with soap and water, they work based on the friction your clothes create when tumbling around in there. So there you have it - stop overusing the soap. You'll save your washer and save yourself money on detergent, too! By the way, this is also a good reason to only run your washer when you have a full load of laundry. If you don't have enough fabric in there, you don't have enough friction and your clothes won't get clean. So there you go, saving yourself money on detergent, plus on water and electric but not running your washer as often since now you'll only do it when you have a full load...man, I should start a money saving blog with all these great ideas!
UPDATE: Yeah, because I have time for that, when I didn't even take the time to realize I never published this post! Hope you learned something, anyway!
Monday, July 22, 2013
Shower report
Saturday, July 20, 2013
Naked blogging: That's my gift
Friday, July 19, 2013
Facebook PM between my old "new girl" and me
- (work talk that I won't bore you with. Now that she works at a different store, we often keep facebook up at work so we can chat in between customers.)
Many animals + hot summer = lots of water
We tried switching over to the big water dispenser but after two days Wolfey is still scared of it so I finally put his water dish back down. Goofy dog gets all freaked out if I even put my hand in the dispenser water while he's taking a drink.
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
Cat conundrum
Monday, July 15, 2013
Naked blogging: I choose to be engaged today
"Being married isn’t one decision. Being married is deciding to stay married every single day. It’s hard. It’s boring. It’s not terribly cinematic."
It's hard to admit that it's not all roses and puppy dogs, especially when we're not even married yet. No one likes to expose their flaws. But it's important to talk about those things and to remember, we're not alone on those down days. Everyone goes through it, and it's the healthy, successful relationships that come out the other side. I hope I can remember this and continue my mantra now and forever. I am so lucky to have found the Man of my dreams, and today and forever, I choose to be with him.
Saturday, July 13, 2013
Thursday, July 11, 2013
My little girl is growing up
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
It's a wonderful life
Sunday I was completely wiped out after work. Man called and asked me to stop at the grocery store on my way home to pick up a few last minute things for dinner. I got home and he had things almost completely ready and was just waiting on my few items...which, of course, I got wrong. Instead of getting frustrated that he put so much work into something I screwed up, Man totally rolled with it and made my mistakes work. And we had an amazing dinner! It was really awesome to come home to yummy smells and happy faces around the table!
Monday Man tromped through pastures, ducked into corn fields, climbed a semi and sat on farm equipment all in the sweltering heat so I could have the engagement shoot I've always wanted down at Dad's farm. Yes, we did get engaged in January, and yes we did just get our engagement pictures done in July, but time kind of got away from us, deal with it. Additionally, an old friend from high school gave up an evening with her family and joined us in that sweltering heat at 7 months pregnant to take the pictures for us!
Wednesday BBS and I took 9 kids from 4 different families to the zoo. We had BBS's 2 little ones (the 3 older ones are on vacation with our parents), Man's 3, the 3 kids BBS babysits and BBS's niece, ranging in age from 10 months to 11 years. We sweat, we got rained on, we had an awesome time. We fully acknowledge that we're crazy for taking so many kids, especially with only 2 adults, but there's no one else I would have rathered do it with!
Life may not be perfect, but I'm not sure how it could get much better!
Saturday, July 6, 2013
Potty mouths
Last night, as Man and I were preparing for bed we were talking about our days and trying to figure out why we both had such bad headaches. Headache talk always leads to analysing what I've eaten over the course of the past day or two, because usually I can track my aches and pains back to eating an allergen and last night was no different. Man started with my intake yesterday and eventually got back to the three ears of corn on the cob I'd eaten at our 4th of July cookout. Yes, I know better, but come on, it's corn on the cob on the 4th of July and you just can't pass that up! So as we're talking food intake and he mentioned the corn, I burst out with "so that's why I shit my brains out today!" and we both moaned at my over sharing but then laughed uncontrollably, with Man commenting on how inappropriate I am and inquiring as to whether I was going to discuss texture and color. I pretended I was disgusted, so Man launched into a description of his "frothy" poo, saying he had a crappuccino and we again dissolved into fits of laughter.
It's true that we're gross. It's true that we overshare. It's true that we're horribly inappropriate. But it's also true that we really enjoy each other and can have more fun brushing our teeth together than I could have with some past boyfriends actually going out and doing some fun activity together. I really am so lucky to love someone who loves me not only for my good, appropriate side, but also for the silly, dirty, inappropriate, craziness that is me!
Damn cat
The dogs sleep gated in with us so Brady can have free reign of the house during the night, since the dogs rule during the day. Every morning when he hears Man and I stirring, Brady comes to the gate at our bedroom door and starts meowing. When I get up to let the dogs out, Brady usually stays put next to the door and the dogs go by without encounter but some mornings he stands crosswise in the hall so we cannot pass, meowing like he's distressed that the dogs are coming toward him. It's like he can't figure out that the dogs couldn't care less if he's there or not, as long as they can get to the back door to go out to potty. I can't decide if he thinks he's so special that he just can't wrap his head around the fact that the dogs don't care or if he is literally scared stiff!
Friday, July 5, 2013
I have some really awesome family
Another cousin (who is also, legally, not a cousin, but is my aunt's ex-husband's son and chooses to stick around our family, because that's just how great we are!) is coming out next week to work on some plumbing issues we have and install our new dishwasher.
BBS has been busting her hump preparing things for my bridal showers. Yes, showers. As in, plural. And BBS is taking the lead on both of them. She has recruited an aunt or two from each side of the family and they've been working like mad women to ensure I have not one (my wedding), not two (my shower) but three (my second shower) special days.
BBS and hubby threw a 4th of July party yesterday and not only invited Man and I (who were the only ones there who were kidless, since our girls are with their mom) but waited dinner on us (since I had to work) and then raved about the strawberry pretzel salad Man made in which the jello refused to set up, so it was more like strawberry pretzel mush. We had a great time and although the kids struggled with waiting until dark to set off the fireworks, we still got to see some of the prettiest ones!
For the past several weeks, Man has dealt with a grumpy, sleep deprived, over-worked-and-under-paid, confused and weepy Karen and taken it all in stride.
I've really been struggling lately with trying to find a balance between work, home, wedding planning and starting my It Works! business, but with such an awesome family, I know it will all work out. I am so lucky to love so many amazing people!
Thursday, July 4, 2013
And this is why I love you
Me: "We keep saying we're going to put that wine in the fridge and then not thinking about it when we're home to do it. You're home and I'm thinking about it. Just saying."
Man: "Ok. It's in the refrigerator."
Me: "And this is why I love you :)"
Man: "That's why?"
Me: "Because you humor me and don't question my ridiculous logic, all the while spoiling me by enabling me to drink on a work night? Umm...yeah."
Me: "That and the millions of other reasons why you're amazing!"
Man: "If you say so."
Yep, he's all that and modest, too!